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They Call Me Bitter Since I Have Been Divorced

Linda B. Patrick
3 min readMay 18, 2024

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Getting and going through a divorce are journeys no one can prepare you for. It’s a process of disentanglement from a life once shared, a redefining of self, and a reconstruction of one’s identity.

Yet, long after the ink dries on the divorce papers, echoes of the past can linger. As well as sometimes manifesting in unexpected ways — like being labeled as “bitter.”

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Almost two years post-divorce, I found myself facing this accusation. Someone had labeled me “bitter,” I had to pull my energy back and think. Initially, I was taken aback. Bitter? Me? How could that be? I prided myself on my resilience. I also admire my ability to move forward despite the pain of the past. But then, in my reflection, I realized something crucial: what people call me does not define me.

Divorce is messy. It’s an emotional mix of emotions, thoughts, and experiences from the marriage that can leave us feeling raw and vulnerable long after the legal proceedings. In the aftermath, a complex terrain of emotions — grief, anger, sadness, relief, hope — all swirling together in a tumultuous mix. It’s natural to experience moments of bitterness amidst this upheaval. After all, we’re only human.

But being labeled as bitter doesn’t capture the fullness of who we are. It’s a simplistic mind of the one-dimensional…

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Linda B. Patrick
Linda B. Patrick

Written by Linda B. Patrick

CEO and Founder of She's Found Strength. Visual Storyteller. Positivity Pusher. Personal Development & Mindset Writer. Email: lindapatrick1993@gmail.com

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